How to keep the husband’s alcoholic friend, who is meddling in the family, away?

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From observing things around me: it never ends well; I’ve seen such bonds break when one of the two died. In general, my examples are purely negative, so:

• ban all contact between her husband and him;
• the husband’s chemical coding.

Perhaps chemical coding is the only thing I can recommend as a truly effective, non-domestic solution. The main thing is to make sure to repeat this process every few years. I haven’t seen any other effective methods; all the talk, excuses, and promises with alcohol do not work—it’s a drug. It has to be treated accordingly.

As his friend answered me: I DRANK WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND WILL KEEP DRINKING

Because of this, there are constant fights in our family. At first I asked my husband nicely not to go to him, and then it got to the point where I said, if you want to drink with him, take your things and go to him, let him feed you and clothe you. I’m the only one working, and thankfully we don’t have children.

Well, again, it seems to me that this is all very banal, and the bot wrote correctly
either your husband stops drinking with his friend, or you set a firm condition — up to and including leaving him; it seems that for now you simply are not setting it and are trying to get off with minimal loss:
on one side of the scales for him should be alcohol, and on the other, the fact that this does not suit you, and that you may not be around.

So you asked nicely — take your things. If he is still going out and drinking, then you take your things yourself and go to your relatives or somewhere else — at the same time you’ll get a moral break, or you kick him out if the apartment is yours.

If words don’t work, move on to actions)

So the friend is an alcoholic, and the husband is normal? And this scoundrel is getting him drunk, i.e. forcibly pouring it down his throat? Don’t deceive yourself with illusions: the husband, most likely drinks of his own free will and has already made his choice, not in your favor. To make sure of this, try giving him an ultimatum of the “it’s either me or him” kind, but be prepared for the possibility that his drinking buddy is more important to him.

There are groups for working with addicts. Now you have to think about yourself and the family, it’s convenient for the husband. He is fine with everything.